Knowledge or knowing what to do differs from wisdom. Wisdom is the ability to understand, think, and combine knowledge and experiences in order to make good decisions. Wisdom moves us forward to success however we choose to define it.
My mother was a source of wisdom. She taught me independence and how to make decisions. She provided support without judgement, even when she may not have liked my decisions, for example, when I chose to move to Canada, ultimately one of my best decisions. She died when I was in my twenties and I wish I had been open to receiving more of her wisdom while she was still alive. Her wisdom helped me grow and I still tap into it.
My wish for you is that you be open to both sharing and receiving wisdom. Mentoring others to help them make good decisions is an important part of leadership. Help others to realize what life and success could be for them. Consider what you have to offer and be proactive in helping others to grow. When you do this you will be amazed how good you feel.
The first step is two-fold:
a) You have to genuinely care about others and their success – as they define it.
b) You have to believe in your own wisdom and that you have good things to share.
Share. Support. Don’t judge. Allow individuals to choose how they will use your wisdom.
My mother helped me feel confident in my decision to move to another country even though it would mean that she would not hear or see much of me in the future. It was a great gift. Some things that I learned from her:
- Have patience. Don’t assume you know what is best.
- Listen to understand what others want.
- Ask questions to clarify and reframe other’s thinking.
- Share, when asked, without judgement.
- Accept that you cannot force your wisdom on others, they have to be open.
- Don’t walk away from someone who you could have helped, because you were not willing or lacked the courage to share.
Take a moment and consider the wisdom that you have and who you know who could benefit. Conversely who has wisdom that could be of value to you, which you could pass to others one day, as I have done with my mother’s wisdom? Reach out and share.