Great Leaders Show Vulnerability and Appreciation

Tuesday, October 3 2017

Effective leadership and coaching become even more important when the status quo is disrupted and change takes place. Our current times call for great leadership skills.

Unless you are a hermit who never interacts with anyone, you have realized that the best way to get things done in business is by leveraging the skills, talents, and abilities of both your direct reports and peers. Two important factors ensure those interactions increase in value and meaning.


This trait includes several attributes – open mindedness, authenticity, honesty and willingness to share thoughts and feelings.

Sometimes a great relationship needs one person who is prepared to be vulnerable and make a point that opens up a conversation, considers another solution, and challenges the status quo. It is not always easy for leaders to put themselves out there; however, such willingness allows for stronger connections through building trust, the foundation of any good relationship.

While leaders should always be focused on the organization’s strategy, the discussions they participate in will have increased value only when all participants are willing to show vulnerability and challenge the status quo. True success may not be achieved otherwise.


Lack of appreciation is frequently cited as a reason for leaving an organization. Skilled leaders genuinely value the skills, talents, and abilities of others and express that appreciation regularly.

It is important to be specific when showing appreciation. Clarity about what someone did well focuses them on their strengths and they are more likely to repeat those actions.

It is equally important to show appreciation by giving feedback about aspects of performance that could be enhanced. Such explanations should be delivered in a positive “coaching for success” manner. People used to refer to constructive feedback, although too often the delivery was not done in a positive way. Providing feedback shows appreciation and is always a sign that you care about the individual.

Choose to become a role model and display both vulnerability and appreciation. Combine those attributes with asking powerful questions; listening with empathy and an open mind; goal setting; as well as ensuring clear, mutually agreed upon expectations and you have created good coaching. In the face of disruption, coaching is the best tool for helping others in your organization succeed. And when they succeed, your success is assured.