Respect is the appreciation of another’s unique abilities and talents. It shows that you view them as individuals and recognize the value their skills bring to an organization. It also shows that you are willing to accept and value differences and diversity in people and the way they work. ~ Caroline Rowan, Results-Centred Leadership
Respect is at the heart of every trusting business relationship. It allows for enhanced communication and the sharing of ideas with both internal and external customers. It will generate greater results.
Think of respect as the hub of a wheel, holding the spokes in place. The spokes represent the respectful behaviours that create a strong environment of trust. The rim of the wheel is the trust that develops between people. Without respect (the hub) the behaviours (the spokes) will not develop, and trust will never be strong.
The essential components integral to respect are:
Listen to understand what someone is communicating. Empathic Listening goes beyond knowing what is being said; it appreciates how they are feeling and understands the underlying message. It uses more than just ears. It requires observing body language, relaxing, focusing on the person, concentrating not multi-tasking, and being silent until the person has finished communicating their thoughts.
Coach for success rather than policing for failure. Incorporate both formal and informal coaching into your daily routine.
Accept that some people process information quickly and come to decisions faster. Others process more slowly and need more time to analyze information. Some individuals process by talking, which can be frustrating to those who think quickly.
Keep commitments or let people know ahead of time that they cannot be met.
No hidden agendas or manipulation.
Keep people in the loop, share information that is important to the individual.
Consider other’s time and what they have already scheduled before delegating.
Deal constructively with conflict in a timely manner. Address the issues without making it personal. Accept that when people are growing, mistakes may happen. Use these as a learning opportunity.
Decisions should be made with input from those most affected by the change. Tap into the knowledge and expertise of team members.
Differences in Values
Not everyone has your values. You may feel it is acceptable to work on the weekend, others believe it is family time. Understand what motivates each individual member of your team. Get to know people at a deeper level. Treat people as they would like to be treated.
We often claim we respect differences, yet time and time again I see those differences not being appreciated or even understood. Creating a team that will carry a company forward requires understanding and flexibility on the part of the leader. Consider the needs of the team members and treat them accordingly. Come from a place of respect and behave accordingly.